A friend shared a terrible wedding story with me the other day. She and her extended family traveled out of town with three small children, all under the age of four, to a relative’s wedding. Since kids were invited to the wedding, they were very excited to be traveling all together for this special occasion. While at the reception, waiting for dinner to be served, her four year old niece decided to start dancing, as little girls often do, to the music near their table, away from most of the other guests. Within minutes, the bride had took notice and instructed others to remove her niece from the area and had demanded that she stop dancing. Obviously this did not make her family or her niece feel very welcome or that they were ok with kids just being kids at the wedding. They were clearly given mixed signals. Should the bride have had a kid free wedding after all?
When planning a wedding, it can be so hard to not feel the pressure from family and friends on who to invite or not invite to your wedding. Deciding on inviting kids is usually the first hard decision to tackle. I can remember when planning my wedding, I clearly decided I did not want kids at my wedding because I thought they would spoil the mood of our wedding. So many of our friends were just starting their families and had kids under the age of three. I did, however, want to include my two youngest nieces as flower girls in the wedding because they were adorable and they were very well-mannered and I knew they could handle it. But for many couples, the decision is not always that easy. How do you know if you want to invite kids or not? And if you do, will you regret it? Should you only invite kids to the reception?
Here are some easy questions to ask yourself:
Whichever way you decide to go, one thing is true for either decision. Be flexible. In my case, although we had wanted a kid free wedding aside from my flower girls, at the last minute a good friend was left without childcare for his three year old son. We made an exception because we wanted him to be there at our wedding. He found a cute little tuxedo for his son and he ended up being very well behaved and brought a lot of joy to all of us.
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